Choose Yourself First

Above all else, the person you will spend most of your time with in life is yourself. The company you keep best ought to be your very own. The phrase "love yourself first and all else will follow" simply means, once you have discovered and accepted your own worth in love, the things you choose to accept of others and from them become clearer. This becomes a navigation guide that transcends into your social, economic and personal issues; from friendships, relationships, job, income and code of conduct in business. It is also important to note that how you treat yourself is also included, as such, you are responsible for loving yourself better than all others. For those that have yet to learn to fully love themselves, choice, is an alternative narrative.

P U R P O S E 
Loving or choosing yourself first can help in finding or striving towards your purpose. We as human beings are goal seeking organisms, we only function at our very best when we are working on something that is important to us. Earl Nightingale drew wisdom and inspiration from the works of James Allen about the power of thoughts. Below are his thoughts on purpose;

"Thinking with purpose is to enter the ranks of those strong ones who only recognise failure as one of the pathways to attainment. Who make all conditions serve them, who think strongly, attempt fearlessly and accomplish masterfully. Having conceived of his purpose, a man should prudently mark out his straight pathway to his achievement, looking neither to the right or left.
Doubts and fears should be rigorously excluded, they are disintegrating elements which break up the straight line of effort. Thoughts of doubt and fear never accomplish anything, they always lead to failure. Purpose and energy are weakened when fear creeps in, and he who encourages them, thwarts himself at every step.The [self] will to do, springs from the knowledge that we can do. He who has concurred doubt and fear, has concurred failure. His every thought is fought with power and purpose. Thought, allied fearlessly with purpose, becomes creative force. All that a man archives and fails to archive are the direct result of his thought."

"You cannot travel within and stand still without."

You are responsible for the success of your life, be it spiritual, financial or emotional. Success is subjective, to define what I mean, is none other than Mr. Nightingale"Success is the progressive realisation of a worthy ideal". It is important to determine what your worthy ideal, goal or dream is. For to take footsteps in your path is more important than the destination. These steps should be progressive ones, failure is included in this. Failure is not a destination but a step, and if you chose another, you can turn it to success.
Benjamin Isiah Mays said;
"The tragedy of life does not lie in not reaching your goals, the tragedy lies in not having a goal to reach. It isn't a calamity to die with dreams unfulfilled but, it is a calamity not to dream. It's not a disaster to be unable not to capture your ideas, but, it is a disaster not to have any dreams to capture. It is not a disgrace to not capture the stars, but it is to have no stars to reach".
As you begin to reach reach for your goals in life, it is important to work diligently, be kind to yourself and never allow the mind to waiver based on your perception of the current circumstance. My favorite mentor and teacher Les Brown says start "working on yourself, by setting aside time to work on your mind, it causes you to begin to reflect on yourself. To take personal inventory, upgrade your strategy and increase faith. Our [self] belief continues to grow, what I earn, is a reflection of what I believe -subconsciously- I deserve".

"The thing about decisions is to make a decision, and if that doesn't work, make another decision, and if that doesn't work, you're probably in the wrong field anyway". Develop the habit of making decisions the first time they come around.

The commitment to becoming excellent in your chosen field is an indispensable pre-requisite for success. Excellence is a journey not a destination, you will never get there; complacency and distraction are the key enemies of excellence. This yields opportunities, when you become excellent you come to the attention of people and they want to give you more responsibilities. In our society you only work 8 hours a day for survival, everything over 8 hours is for success.  If you put in the hours, it is an investment for your future; whether it's studying, reading or working, it will pay off.
Always concentrate on the best use of your time. Look at your work and use the 80/20 rule, which is the 20% of the things I have to do that account for 80% of my work? Before you start anything, make a list and ask your self, what is the most valuable use of your time right now? Whenever you are working on the most valuable use of your time you feel great, concentrated effort is a source of energy and enthusiasm. Develop a sense of urgency. Develop a reputation for speed and dependability. Learn from each set back, ask yourself, what is the most valuable lesson I can learn from this experience. Seek and you shall find [bible], if you look for the valuable lesson or the seed of an equal or greater advantage or benefit in the difficulty, you will find it.
Above is an excerpt from Brian Tracy's principles of self efficiency titled 'Keys to personal power'.

"All  changes in our life come with the input of new information". -Anon
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